The most common mistake non indonesian guys make:
Case example:
Non Indo guy: "You cheated on me. You went on a date with another guy. I am angry with you (and jealous but i will never admit to that).
Indo girl: "What do you mean?"
Non Indo guy: "I thought we are together. we are very close!"
Indo girl: "You never made your claim."
Non Indo guy: "What are you talking about?"
Indo girl: "What are YOU talking about?"
Non Indo guy: "So all these months my efforts was for nothing?"
Indo girl :"So all these months i was waiting for you (to have some balls and made your claim) was for nothing?"
Non Indo guy: "Wtf are you talking about?"
Indo girl: "Wtf are YOU talking about?"
Non Indo guy: "You cheated on me. You went on a date with another guy. I am angry with you (and jealous but i will never admit to that).
Indo girl: "What do you mean?"
Non Indo guy: "I thought we are together. we are very close!"
Indo girl: "You never made your claim."
Non Indo guy: "What are you talking about?"
Indo girl: "What are YOU talking about?"
Non Indo guy: "So all these months my efforts was for nothing?"
Indo girl :"So all these months i was waiting for you (to have some balls and made your claim) was for nothing?"
Non Indo guy: "Wtf are you talking about?"
Indo girl: "Wtf are YOU talking about?"
the indonesian dating rule
In Indonesia any girl can go on dates with anyone she wants when she is single and no guy close to her has made his claim that she is his girl.
Dating in Indonesia is very innocent, in general a normal date is just going to eat dinner, lunch, coffee or watching a movie. And no touching. No holding hands, no hugging, no kissing. So obviously no sex.
Only the boyfriend have these rights. And Indonesian girls in general will never make the first move, such as kissing a guy first. Especially on first dates and the dates after until they are together as boyfriend and girlfriend.
To be together just being close is not enough. The guy MUST make his claim and ask her formally. It is called "nembak" the girl in Indonesian slank language. In English it means "to shoot", it does not make sense, but all Indonesian knows the meaning of this. It means the guy has make the move to make his claim. If the girl say yes then they are together. And she lost all rights to go on dates with any other guys.
If he never made his claim, then no matter how close, they are considered as friends, nothing more. So the girl can go on dates with any other guys and be close with any other guys. No matter how close that guy have no rights to be angry or to tell her not to be close with other guys. This will sound scarily possessive.
In most cases, no Indonesian guys will drag the 'pdkt' (the getting to know each other period) for a long time, because eventually there will be some other guys want to make his claim and snatch the girl away.
Waiting for long period of time before making a claim will make the girl think you are just playing around and not serious. Or worse, you are not a man and got no balls.
So if you decided to make a move on an Indonesian girl, remember my tips. Make your claim! Do not be afraid. Indonesian girls are very friendly. Even if she rejects your claim, you can retry again and again.
Some guys who really like a girl will even try to make his claim over 10 times and still rejected 10 times. Its just the way it goes in Indonesia.
Good luck!